Thursday, August 28, 2014

Jumping through the hoops yet again

As promised here is my update from the past two weeks of doctor visits and phone calls. As much as I wish I could say that things went smoothly they of course didn't. I swear everything I do always has to be difficult. Even in my everyday tasks I somehow make things more difficult than they need to be. Must be my theme in life lol.

Back to my visit to the base clinic. I was given the new navy doctor to the clinic. I swore they were messing with me because his name is Talc and my last provider was Ta. So at first I heard Ta and not Talc and I was pretty confused until they said his name again.  His last duty stat was in VA and he worked witn a lot of infertility patients there so that made me feel a lot better having him as a doctor. We jumped right into where we were currently with our journey and gave a super quick summary of all the medications, surgeries,  tests, and procedures I've done in the past 4 yrs. I explained why I needed the HSG test done again and why I needed it done by the base.  He agreed that it was a great idea to get it done for free instead of paying $350 out of pocket.

In the same breath he suggested we contact San Diego to see if I could get into their fertility clinic for the simple reason of how much money we would save. We explained that last year we were told that they weren't seeing dependents patients at that time. He suggested that we try again. Preston and I instantly began to get excited that maybe something good was going to happen to us. The doctor gave us the phone number and Preston planned on calling as soon as we left.

The next step was for me to call back to the base clinic when my cycle started so we could schedule my HSG test. Which at that point was going to be in a few days. Surprise surprise I started 2 days early and it was after hours on Friday. So I called on Monday morning and I was told they would call me back after checking my doctors schedule and radiologists schedule. On Tuesday afternoon I received a call asking if I was on day 5 of my cycle which I was.  Can you guess what day of my cycle this test needs to be on??? You guessed it day 5! So this month is shot and after giving them a prediction of my next day 5 cycle my doctor will be in surgery that day. And apparently it won't matter what day cycle day 5 lands on he will be busy. So my suggestion was to send me out to Fresno to the place I did my 1st HSG test done. Nope not a choice because the clinic is able to do it in house.

So I am frustrated because yet again I am going to have to wait for them to have a free schedule. Which at this point won't be until at least October. And let's face it they are going to find something that will need to be fixed and that will push back the possibility of IVF. And if we don't do IVF soon we might not be able to do it until next year. Preston's command is getting ready for work ups for their big deployment next summer. So the more we put things off the less likely we are to be able to try for a family any time soon. If I haven't mentioned that I am freaked out by my age and trying to have children. So if we have to wait till his work ups and 10 month deployment I will be 32 and during in the mix of all that we will hopefully be at a new duty station which means finding a new base doctor and then a new fertility clinic doctor as well. So there could very well be another birthday in between that time which means I would be 33. I know people have babies in their 30's but I didn't want my 1st to be that late in life because I know of all the risks that come with having children once you hit your mid 30's.

Okay enough of my ramblings about my weird obsession with numbers. I just wish I was done jumping through the hoops. I think 4 yrs of heartbreak is enough. On a side note I feel beyond blessed that our families and friends have donated $800 so far!! I am shocked each time I receive an email giving me an update when we get a donation. Our page has been shared 63 times also. Every time we get a donation I feel like a weight is being lifted off my shoulders. Thank you to everyone who have donated and have shared our story.

My plan is to contact the clinic tomorrow to see what they have came up with for a solution in order for me to be able to get an HSG done. Fingers crossed they actually pick up the phone and we don't have to play phone tag.


-Kate


Wednesday, August 13, 2014

My mission

I don't really have any big updates that I need to blog about. Right now we are continuing the process for the foster to adopt program. We have taken 3 out of the 9 classes we need for the foster pride program. So currently every Tuesday evening we spend 3hrs learning how to be a foster parent.   Mostly the classes are a crash course on child development and how to understand diversity.  For me it has been a refresher from all my education classes I took in college.

As for my ivf process I have gotten my blood work done that they requested. With this blood they are going to be able to see if my right ovary is still functioning. My next step is another hsg test to see if I healed properly from my septum surgery last fall. I am trying to save us $350 by getting it done on base. So I am jumping through the hoops and being patient. I have an appointment next week with one of the providers in the OB clinic.

Preston and I are considering using a website called Go Fund Me. If you haven't heard of the site it is essentially an online fundraiser. In the 4 yrs we have been on this journey we often get asked "How can we help"?  When Preston first brought up the idea of using this page I immediately shot him down. My fear is that people will view this like we are asking for a handout. I always worry about what others think even though I know I shouldn't.

One of the things that is pushing me to go ahead with the site is that I will be able share our journey. When I first started blogging it was a good outlet for me to express my feelings. I have been slightly selective on who was able to read this blog. At first I announced on Facebook that I started a blog and if you wanted to read it you needed to private message me. Then I would again announce that there were updates. And as of recently I have been blogging and not announcing about updates for privacy reasons. If we were to share our story on that site I would attach a link to this blog. My new goal is to educate people how common infertility really is. I cannot tell you how many of my friends have messaged me and shared with me about their infertility struggles. I want to inspire others to share their stories and have a voice. I find it crazy that 90% of insurance companies don't offer any coverage for infertility. Or that 1 in 8 couples are suffering with infertility. No matter what the outcome of our story is I will never forget how empty and incompetent I feel each month.

So if we do end up going public with everything I encourage you to share the page. Even if somehow you stumbled upon the site or my blog please share it. No one should feel like they are the only ones dealing with this.

Okay enough of my ramblings.

-Kate